Am i doing the right thing?

Why life is confusing and you can’t trust yourself

As I entered my senior year of High School, I woke up suddenly to the realization that I had to make a decision about my future, and soon! The impending deadline for that life altering question, “What will I do with the rest of my life?” haunted me as I went to class and completed my assignments. It doesn’t help that choosing what you’ll do with the rest of your life happens during the most transitional part of your life. You’re no longer a child, but you’re not quite an adult just yet either. Why do we struggle with knowing when we’re doing the right thing? The Bible lays it out fairly plainly in Jeremiah 10:


Look at the problem

We operate on a moral compass that has no true north. If you were to take an expensive dslr camera with a 10x magnification lens and were to point that camera towards something in the distance, you would find that as you zoomed in, you would struggle to keep that object in the frame. The slightest degree off center would cause you to zoom in to the wrong place.

Pilots are said to have an air navigation rule called the 1 in 60 rule. It means simply that for every degree a plane gets off its course, it will miss the target destination by 1 mile for every 60 miles you fly. The farther you fly, the further from your destination you will find yourself.

A compass that has no true north is useless. If you can’t rely on it to point you in the right direction, you really don’t want to follow that compass. Sadly, you don’t even have to be way off in left field when you start! Even a little off base and you’ll miss the mark!

Plainly put, we cannot know what is actually correct. Just as Jeremiah said in the passage above, “the way of man is not in himself.” We can try as hard as we can to be right about everything and still be wrong about a whole lot. You likely have regrets in your life; did you get those regrets because one day you chose to do something harmful to your future? Probably not. Most of us have regrets because we did something wrong in spite of trying to do or say the right thing.


look at the predisposition

This is where we really hurt ourselves. We naturally assume we are always right. As humans, we are capable of endless self deception.


Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the LORD pondereth the hearts.

Proverbs 21:2


We give ourself passes to be wrong, even when we hold others to a higher standard! Just consider how many times you have been upset at someone for something you are also guilty of! Not only are we off target most of the time, we are the first to make ourselves feel better for being wrong. This makes our own target untrustworthy because we cannot even bring ourselves to follow our own standard. So how can we fix this problem?


Look at the prescription

We must trust someone who sees more clearly than we do and we must hold ourselves to a higher standard than our own.


Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.

John 16:13


If we want to be right about the things we do and the decisions we make, we must allow God to direct our steps.


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